DYP- Dedicate Your Prayer

I am born in a Jain family. Jainism is based on philosophy that your fate is nothing but result of past Karma (actions). Whatever you do today, will be your destiny which includes future births also. All the eastern philosophies are based on this principle. With that philosophy in mind, I never thought that prayers have any role in bringing happiness in our life or removing sorrow/pain from our life.

I would like to recall an incident when I got introduced to an elderly lady for some work purpose. We hardly met 2-3 times then. That time when I fell sick, somehow she came to know about it. Later I came to know that she actually walked 20 kms to a temple to pray for my wellness. Though I never had faith in prayers but I was touched by her gesture, selfless love and care for someone who is not even a close friend or relative.

After giving a much thought to the power of prayers, I realized that prayers are not powerful because somebody is sitting there, listening to your prayer and taking action for your well being. Instead, prayers help in increasing the faith in self and becoming psychologically as well as emotionally strong. And which in turn direct all universal forces to create situation/circumstances which are required to make prayers successful.

Most of us pray for greed of getting something or fear of losing something. The best thing which I learned few days back is – Everyday, one should dedicate a prayer for someone else, selflessly. I am not sure if that will help someone or not, but it will definitely give you the utmost pleasure of selflessness.

5 Tips for Dedicating Prayer for others:
1. Everyday think of someone who is in some pain.
2. Pray to your God for his/her well being.
3. If you do not believe in any God, pray to the nature/universe.
4. You may devise your own method of praying.
5. Try to be as selfless as possible in prayers.

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पूजा ऐसी मत करो, भय व लोभ हो साथ।परहित ही मन मे रहे, जोड़ प्रभु को हाथ H279

FAE-Failures Are Experiences

In my opinion we must discourage everyone to use the word FAILURE. The word failure has been used so negatively in day-to-day life that it can’t do any thing better than to demean and demotivated someone. Failure is basically not getting success in that attempt, which can be better defined as experience. Thomas Edison did not get success 999 times before developing bulb, but he learned 999 ways how not a bulb can be made.

In professional life, failing is actually accumulating experiences. The best example of learning from failure is Abraham Lincoln. When we will start calling failures as experiences, we will not get demotivated and never feel down. We will start again with new experience and new zeal. Instead of asking how and why you failed, ask how your experience was and what your next plans are. Failures are best lessons to learn and strong foundation stones on which a palace of success can be built.

5 Tips to handle failure effectively:
1. Smile on the face of failure.
2. Do not allow your enthusiasm to die.
3. Analyse reasons of failure.
4. Start again with new strategy.
5. Do not blame others for your failures.

EWH - Education Widens Horizon

Here is real story of a boy who never cleared his exams till standard 8th without grace marks, failed twice; in standard 7th and 9th. Completed graduation in Hindi medium. Completed CA because his father had strong desire that his son should be a Chartered Accountant. This is ME, today whatever little success I have, the entire credit goes to my father and my education.
Education never stops. I wish I could read till my last breath. By religion I am Jain and we believe in next birth. I wish in next birth I want to devote entire life studying Sanskrit so that I can read Veda, Upanishad, Geeta and our Scriptures. So much of wisdom gained by our Rishis is hidden there. I wish I could get part of it.

Education widens horizon, one can have a higher vision, clarity of thoughts, wisdom in speech and purity of action. Good education helps us to lead life of peace and happiness.
5 Tips for continuous learning:
1. Give as much education as possible to your children.
2. Keep learning even after completion of formal education by reading books, magazines etc. Keep attending seminar, exhibitions etc.
3. Travel a lot, this help in widening horizon.
4. Be observant of each and every thing.
5. Develop a habit of writing.
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ETE - EXCEED THE EXPECTATIONS

ETE

Exceed The Expectations

If you add little EXTRA in ORDINARY you become extraordinary. I ask

this question to my students that if they go to Mumbai and take a taxi

from airport to nariman point, which takes more than an hour, what

they expect from taxi driver. Most of them reply that the shortest

route, safe driving, smiling behavior etc. now suppose if he offers you

newspaper or magazine to read during journey or a small water bottle,

how would you feel? Probably you would like to give tip when you get

down. It is the reward for extra service he has given.

This applies in each and every role of life. Give little extra than what is

expected out of you and you will become extra ordinary. Mostly that

extra do not cost any thing. It requires only an innovative thinking. Try

it from today and you will notice the positive difference

immediately. Exceed the expectations and all will praise you.

5 Tips to Exceed the Expectations:

1. Make a list of expectations that others expect according to your role.

2. Think creatively about what extra you can give compared to what is

expected from you in your role.

3. Make it a habit to give some thing extra in whatever you are doing.

4. Give extra in a natural way rather than expecting some thing in

return.

5. Consider this as your duty to give extra rather than obligation.

ENS: ELIMINATE NEGATIVE STRESS

ENS: Eliminate Negative Stress

In modern era, stress is inevitable. Due to urbanization, industrialization and fast pace technological development, needs are increasing every day. It is not easy to reduce desires and expectations.  Competition and comparison is so high that even if you do not want, one of your family members may compel you to compare and compete. Unfulfilled desires and expectations are increasing the stress. 

There are 2 types of stress. Positive and Negative. Positive stress leads to progress whereas negative stress affects physical and mental health. Progress in any field even in spirituality, is not possible if certain amount of stress is not there. Mahavira, Buddha, Christ, Mohammad, Gandhi and Mother Teresa all went through positive stress and achieved highest level of their purpose. Process of building stress, start with our senses. Senses feel and mind starts thinking and generates desires and expectations. Desires generate attachment, unfulfilment of which leads to anger. When anger starts, intellect stops working and that leads to deterioration of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health of a person. 

5 Tips to deal with Negative stress:

1. Discriminate between negative and positive stress.

2. Meditate to remove negative stress.

3. Learn to let go.

4. Reduce the expectations.

5. Think positive.

Synchronise 3H and achieve everlasting Happiness.

5 Tips for Synchronise 3H and achieve everlasting Happiness. 

Are you looking for happiness in life? It is an irrelevant question because everyone will answer in YES. It is not necessary that person with all luxuries is happy or financially a very poor person is unhappy. Luxuries can give comforts and increase pleasures or even can reduce pain but happiness is purely dependent on a person internal state of mind.  The simple formula for achieving eternal happiness is synchronising 3H (Hands, Head and Heart). In other way it is aligning mind, body and heart. 

It is easier said than done. The biggest disadvantage of urbanisation and industrialisation is that we have adopted artificialness and diplomacy. Our mind, intellect and actions are not synchronised. We use so many masks that we have forgotten what real we are. We have suppressed and buried the voice of conscious so deeply that we are totally deaf about its echo. Our intellect is so much guided by our senses and bodily pleasures that it has stopped evaluating what is right and what is wrong. Our actions have become so much self oriented that we have no consideration for the feeling of others. We can not remain happy when our surrounding is not happy. We can not achieve bliss when our own hands, head and heart are not in rhythm. 

Tips for synchronising 3H:

1. Meditate everyday for few minutes after you wake up and before you go to bed. 

2. Let mind control senses rather than senses control mind. 

3. Keep developing wisdom by reading & listening philosophies and spirituality. 

4. Think before you act. Quality of your actions will improve. 

5. Be action-less when you are emotionally upset.  

EIP: Extreme is Poisonous.

EIP: 

Extreme is Poisonous. 

 

If we leave apart few thing such as, scoring cent percent marks in exam in any subject, extreme of anything is dangerous. Like in food, all ingredients should be in balance quantity to make it delicious; in life also everything must be balanced. Though people think that having good things such as love, money and power are good as much as you can possess, it is not true. Excess of money and power also brings evil if one does not know how to handle it wisely. Mostly it is found that the future generations in family get spoiled if they are brought-up in extreme affluence and power since birth. 

 

Sometime even the extreme of giving or receiving love also becomes poisonous. A child when he does not get balance between love and discipline, he will fail to develop a success driven personality. Nature also teaches us that if things are in their extremes life can’t exist. For instance there is no life on North or South Pole or in deserts. One should try to create balance in life. Probably Buddha’s middle way meant to have balance in life and teaches us to avoid extremities. 

5 Tips to remain on middle path:

1. Develop an attitude of detachment with things.

2. Reduce the expectations in relationships.

3. Develop the habit of giving.

4. Drop your ego or at least manage your ego effectively.

5. Be more polite and more humble if you have excess of good things.